Update: Surviving

Art is all about emotion.

The emotion felt when creating to the emotion felt by the viewer, art makes us feel. For me, my photography is typically inspired by pain.

In high school, I was struggling with depression and photography became a very important outlet for me. Now, I still find myself using my photography as a way to deal with everything that comes with going through a divorce.

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QOTD: Creating Yourself

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

– George Bernard Shaw

I love the control this statement gives the individual. “Finding yourself” implies you don’t have the ability to do so with out some sort of journey or search in which you have little to no control of the outcome, length, or course.

“Creating yourself” gives control to you as an individual to dictate who you are entirely. You make the choices, you carry the power, and you decide.

 


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QOTD: Love Your self

May 17, 2017

“We don’t make mistakes, just happy accidents.”

– Bob Ross

What works best about this quote is how it forces you to change your perspective.

I don’t necessarily follow the idea of “Fake it till you make it” because there are a lot of things wrong with it but I do believe that attempting to find the good in every situation is a good thing.

I wil be honest and say that in some situations there may not be any good, but it’s the effort of trying to focus your energy some place that can make the real difference.

Take for example my mood tonight. The first day with my kid this week and I hate it. I put on some music to relax and I started with “I Hope You Suffer” by AFI.

Good song, great song, the best song ever…

But it was long before I was wanting to listen to something a bit lighter. Not because I want to avoid feeling angry or upset, but because I’ve accepted my emotion and naturally changed back into my true self who really just wants to dance. Ha ha.

It didn’t start this way and it doesn’t always work out like this. But getting to a point of honesty with my emotions has allowed me to work through things faster.

As someone who has struggled with depression, I want to also say sometimes you need help also. Counseling and therapy were a big part of me getting here. Techniques I learned there have helped to ease me through a lot. I’ve also done medication. I wasn’t able to find a combination for myself when I had it available but I can tell you it did help. And I know now that it is worth trying.

It is all about honesty and being willing to recognize what you need for you to be able to be okay. Reach out and reach up because you deserve to feel good about who you are.

Surviving anything is learning to love yourself.


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QOTD: Live for the stars, they are more plentiful.

May 16, 2017

log in the grass b&w

“Shoot for the moon, even if you fail, you’ll land among the stars.”

– Cecelia Ahern

In five months I went from single to married and it was quite an adventure. It was fun, exciting, overwhelming, and terrifying. Committing to marry someone so quickly was insane but it felt right and it was something I wanted.

That marriage is effectively over.

It is the reason I started work on this blog and reading this quote this morning reminded me how interesting it has been to see how much better of a person I am now that I am out of that marriage and how much it changed my life and brought me to a place where I can feel confident in following my dreams and feel excited for the future.

Trust me, a lot people in my situation wouldn’t be as outwardly happy as I am. The difference between what I could be doing and what I am doing is how I choose to just not worry about what I can’t control anymore. At first, that was hard. When you separate from anyone whom you have a relationship with, you do get mad when they seem to just move on. I know I did.

It didn’t take long, though, to realize how much I still had. Yeah, many of the people I had gotten close to seemed to push me out, but in doing so I found better friends. The people who actually helped me and showed me what it was like to actually care about people. Which was surprising to me because I thought my “church family” would have played a large role in my recovery, but that did not happen at all.

New opportunities presented themselves at work and in my own pursuit of happiness. I realized more fully who I was as a person, recognizing not only my weaknesses, but for once really seeing where I was strong and capable.

Life is still hard. My finances are a cluster ___. I have no idea how to be single and not seeing my son every day can get really frustrating.

But I have a decent home, food in cupboard, the opportunity to see my son often, great friends, my own car, a successful (in my mind) business, opportunities to explore and grow in my hobbies, drive to live, time to appreciate life, a great job, and a hope for my future.

There are plenty of things in my life that are great still. I overcame this hurdle and I will survive and continue to survive anything that comes my way. As a Mormon, I believe in an after-life, so why am I going to waste my time worrying about things that really don’t matter?

I still have some things to work on but I control that now. I control my life and I accept that, that means I can’t control everything.

Surviving anything means happiness is a choice.


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Update: I need to confess… I’m a Mormon

And why the Heck that matters…

Over the past month, I’ve been writing more about my experience as a member of the Mormon church and I just wanted to be clear, this isn’t turning into a Mormon blog. It’s just so much of what I have experienced, especially the struggles I am overcoming currently, revolve around my choice of religion.

I am deliberate in using the word “choice” because it was my own choice to join this particular religion/church/community back in 2011. If I was still Roman Catholic, we wouldn’t be having this conversation because it is highly unlikely I’d be anything other then a Holiday Catholic.

So let me start by clarifying the names I use for my particular choice of religion: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints ( the official name), LDS Church (shortened name), and Mormon church (nickname).

The reasons I will be discussing more about my choice of religion fall into two areas of discussion

– There are issues I have with the culture of the church. (Not doctrine, but the unnecessary culture norms members of this religion try to pass as doctrine but in reality only cause unnecessary pressure and harm to those who try to meet these unwarranted expectations.)

– I’d like to be a voice in trying to change and create a better atmosphere that better represents the doctrine and beliefs of the Church*.

*You’ll notice I switch from capitalizing church and not depending on if I am talking about the organization itself or the members as a body.

There will be other things I discuss, and the majority of my QOTD’s will not have a religious tone to them. But my religion is a part of who I am and thus will be reflected in the work I do. Ultimately though, this blog is about Surviving Anything and in order for me to reach everyone I’d like to reach, I need to share as much about me and what I’ve experienced.

I hope that you continue to enjoy the things I share and please if you have an opinion or thought, even questions regarding the things I talk about, express them. I’m not afraid to discuss anything I share on here and am always open to new ideas and perspectives.

Thank you for your support and I hope we can continue to share these moments together.

-Jorge


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Surviving Anything: Downtown Omaha

My choice to survive here and make this my home.

When I first moved to Omaha, Nebraska, I expected it to only be temporary. I was supposed to head back to Idaho to continue my education and then we thought maybe Missouri would be where we ended up. Two years later, I’ve come to except it at as home and am starting to look forward to growing here.

When my family life broke apart, I initially thought of taking my son to Los Angeles and starting fresh. I had a 24 hour window, where if I had acted, I probably wouldn’t be sitting here sharing any of this. But I felt keeping my son in Omaha would provide a better life for him and I accepted that this was going to be it for me.

Things started to change rather quickly once I agreed to stay. I was able to improve my work situation and found a decent apartment to move into. Now that I was no longer a “tourist” I started to explore more and really take a look at what I had.

Omaha has it’s charm. In the span of a half hour you can go from quiet country roads, through expanding cookie cutter neighborhoods, man-made lakes and into a downtown area rich with history. Being Mormon I also get to enjoy the close proximity of historical sites.

And so this is what the “Downtown Omaha” design represents. My choice to survive here and make this my home. I no longer worry about where I will move when my son moves out of my house. I dream of living in paradise but I know this can be paradise if given the chance.

We don’t always end up in the exact place we want to be. Adjusting to the flow of life and taking and giving chances to our circumstances is how we can learn to keep surviving anything.


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Surviving Anything: Under the Bridge

When you are a dreamer, you mind is always on the go.

Missed opportunities are my inspiration. Let me explain.

I started dreaming up this clothing idea only a few weeks ago. I started looking around and researching what it would take. I played with some designs and put myself in a really awkward place by trying to crowdfund, which I have no problem with crowdfunding, it’s just not my thing.

Then my parents came into town. It was a much needed break and honestly, I had planned on putting away my work and just wanted to enjoy myself. That didn’t quite happen.

When you are a dreamer, your mind is always on the go. Couple that with a photography habit and you find yourself constantly filming movies and organizing photo shoots in your mind. I was doing my best though to try and live in the moment.

Then my mom suggested I take out my camera and take some pictures. Now, sharing my photography is hard enough, but engaging in it in front of people is just impossible. That is until I gave in to my passion.

We were walking towards this bridge and the longer I stared at it, the more in love I fell with it. Fortunately for me, we had no idea where we were going and ended up right below it at a dead end. I felt my insides get all tense and I knew this was a moment I need to take. My camera in hand I took a few shots at what I hoped would be something worth sharing.

And that is how the “Under the Bridge” design started. It was another break in my walls of suppression that keep me away from happiness. I didn’t miss that opportunity like before. In fact, just minutes before, I was laying out excuses to keep my camera stashed away.

Ultimately, those few minutes under this bridge changed everything for me. I accepted that crowdfunding may be my best route. I kept these designs in the ready for what I thought was a long wait and a practice in patience.

Part of surviving is accepting your situation for what it is and moving forward. You keep your mind focused in reality and you push into a course you feel confident in. For me, this led to discovering a better and simpler way to accomplish my dreams.

Now I can bring you three amazing designs, that represent exactly what I want to bring to the table.

Powerful things happen when we start living for our own happiness and it’s in happiness that we can survive anything.


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