QOTD: It Goes On

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”

– Robert Frost

This is my mantra this week.

I can say life has been getting stressful. Things are starting to get a little real and I have plenty to worry about. But it will go on and things will change and I will survive.

Monday’s are considered by many to be the worst day of the week. (Or so society would have you believe.)

I had a friend though who said he thought Tuesday was the worst day of the week.

I’m not sure I agree with either one. I think most days can suck and most days can also not suck, it just depends on how you see it. The weeks that I am doing good, feeling successful and actually am successful, are the weeks where no matter what I let everyday be it’s best. Maybe that means Wednesday was good nap day or Thursday was rock the crap out of my to-do list day, either way each day is just that, another day and anther chance to be positive.

So today, Monday, lets try to be positive. It’s actually Sunday as I write this and I am already a half hour past my bedtime, but you know what Monday is gonna be bomb because I have my son and I have food in my fridge and I feel good about my future.

What positive thoughts do you have today? Please be sure to write them down and keep them in the front of your mind. Let’s make this week awesome.


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Father’s Day

IMG_4979.JPGTwo and half hours later, Levi is finally asleep.

What I though would be an easy night turned into a battle of the wills as I tried to get Levi to sleep. He was tired and had a complete meltdown at the park, several times. So we came home and got ready for bed a little earlier then normal.

We brushed teeth, put lotion on, changing into pajamas, read our scriptures, said our prayer, and drank a bottle.

Unfortunately, he seemed more awake then usual, but I still put him in his crib and crept out. I was planning on getting some work done to prepare for the week and just as I was about to, I heard him fussing.

I tried the usual to get him down. Nothing was working so I decided to just let him be and instead we had a couple of cookies and watched Youtube. Sure enough though he was still tired and just needed to lay down.

So off to bed again, this time we laid in my bed and he tossed and turned, flipped and flopped, kicked and groaned, until I finally told him to lay down or I would put him in the crib.

It worked.

I stayed and made sure he was good and asleep before sneaking away again.

I can’t say I don’t get frustrated when he won’t go down. The evenings are vital for all the many projects I am currently working on and Sunday’s are important planning nights. But only having him part time has helped me appreciate these moments for what they are.

Levi has been sleeping in my arms from day one. I remember holding him almost the whole night after he was born. His first big poop was in my arms!

I understood how precious my time was with him and even though I was tired, I enjoyed getting up and feeding him at night. We’d sit on the couch and usually sleep out there for a few hours before I’d realize it and sneak him back to his crib.

I love being a dad and it’s those moments when your child really shows his trust in you that make all the other stuff worth it. Levi knows he is safe with me and at night when he can’t sleep, he reaches out for me and it’s funny to see him try to cuddle up next to me but just can’t seem to get close enough.

So yeah, maybe tonight I spent most of my “work” time battling it out with a tired toddler, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. I am so grateful to be able to have that opportunity and to also to be able to recognize how special it is.

Fatherhood isn’t easy, but it is damn well worth it.

QOTD: Joy

“We would never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world.”

– Helen Keller

A year ago my life fell apart. Six months later, what was left was crushed. In the last six months though, I have slowly pieced together a better life. When I married, it was expected of me to give up on many of my dreams. My hobbies were no longer acceptable and the things I loved were considered evil.

Finding myself again after experiencing all of that was scary. It seemed wrong to be enjoying things that actually made me happy. Over time though, I found what it meant to be happy again and now enjoy so much more of my life.

Diving back into photography has opened me back up to the world and all its beauty. Writing everyday has helped me be expressive about my feelings and honest with myself about how I am feeling. I have set goals for my future and I have created so many amazing things that I truly am surprised with it all.

I thought for a long time that I was happy married. I would tell myself that marriage wasn’t meant to be easy and that it wasn’t about me. But what I didn’t realize was how much of myself I was giving and giving up.

I am thankful though that now I know that my perspective was so terribly wrong and that I do indeed deserve to be happy and to have things that I love to do. I am allowed to love myself and to make decisions for me. This is why I keep doing this. Everyday, I push myself further to keep myself moving forward and looking for the joy in life no matter how hard it gets or how much I worry, because ultimately finding joy is so important.

QOTD: Creating Yourself

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

– George Bernard Shaw

I love the control this statement gives the individual. “Finding yourself” implies you don’t have the ability to do so with out some sort of journey or search in which you have little to no control of the outcome, length, or course.

“Creating yourself” gives control to you as an individual to dictate who you are entirely. You make the choices, you carry the power, and you decide.

 


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QOTD: Courage

May 24, 2017

“Courage is feeling fear, not getting rid of fear, and taking action in the face of fear.”

– Roy T. Bennett

First off, apologies this is going up late.

Now on to the thoughts on this. This afternoon I had to make a very important phone call to take care of something I had been putting off. It turned out way worse then I had thought and I had planned for some bad news.

Anyway, I had a choice to make, either I could use this as an excuse to veg out and worry and panic about what to do or I could double down on my work and really put my plans into play.

Thankfully, for the first time in my life, I immediately said, “welp, best thing to do is get to work and make my own luck.”

And that is what I did. Tonight I am staying up late and working hard. Getting my life to a better place and hopefully being able to fix my own mess. It’s scary and stressful but hopefully in 30 days I can come back and tell you that I did it. And if I can’t well hopefully I can tell you what I can do better.

Well good night everyone.


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QOTD: I Hate Planning

May 23, 2017

“You can’t plow a field simply by turning it over in your mind.”

– Gordon B. Hinckley

Goals, goals, goals, I really dislike setting goals. It has to do with my dislike of planning.

I don’t have a reason why I dislike planning, I just don’t like it. I’m sitting here laughing because it just seems so ridiculous.

I do currently have a planner. I use it everyday, mostly to jot down ideas for my business, things I want to write about and quotes to share. I try to fill in my weekly appointments and schedule times to take care of just normal everyday things, like making dinner.

Getting my business up and running and sustaining it requires me to be really good about planning my days and making sure that I stay on track. So again, I laugh at how much disdain I have for planning.

However, with all that I do and the amount of time it takes to do it all, keeping a mental list of things doesn’t work. Inevitably I forget things and end up having to back track and it eats away at my day.

I always joke that it would be nice to have an extra 8 hours in my day to work just on my business. It would be amazing to have that much time set aside. That doesn’t typically happen though.

After I leave my day job, there are just things that need to be taken care of. When I have my son, I don’t plan to work until after he goes to bed. When I don’t have him, I still usually don’t start work until after 6 pm so I have time to relax and make dinner.

These habits are built around a mental plan that works, however, there is better efficiency when I write down this schedule. Over the past six months, I’ve made it a habit to, at the minimum, to write out my daily schedule at the beginning of the week.

Naturally, from this, when I get ideas, I stared writing them down in my planner. From that habit, it became normal to feel inspired to actually use those ideas and to want to set goals to achieve them. Life started to get a little easier and I felt better.

Planning is hard. Acting is harder. But when we do both and at the very least, attempt to accomplish our dreams, we find fulfillment. Happiness. Joy. Maybe even relief. Being someone who enjoys writing things down, nothing is more relieving then being able to just write out my feelings, thoughts and ideas, clearing my mind of all the junk that builds up.

I am better capable of being honest with myself. That alone breaks so much of the pressure that I feel in life and helps to center me back into reality. Feeling overwhelmed is a daily occurrence for me. I feel stuck a lot of the time, worried that I am chasing the wrong things or will never see “success.” Those are all normal emotions for me and I’ve learned to work through it all. Being able to feel like I have a plan for my day helps make it easier.

I think we all have to find a way to make our lives feel less like a never ending cycle of suck and more pleasant. It takes time and effort, and lots of planning. But planning will get you no where if you don’t actually do.

So set the goal to start somewhere and write down your ideas. Get it out of your head and closer to reality. Baby steps y’all.

Surviving anything is about believing in your own ability to succeed.


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QOTD: Set Your Future

May 18, 2017

” All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.”

– Brian Tracy

Dreaming is my thing. I dream all day everyday and sometimes at night too. I’ve always been lost in my head. This can make it hard to focus and actually set goals and turn my dreams into reality.

In 2015 my former spouse and I started an Etsy shop. We started selling signs and before I knew it, we had done what I had always thought was impossible, being a successful business owner. My standards of success however fall into these two categories: I’ve established a business that continues to produce sales and I have sold something multiple times and people still really like it.

I know that, that may not seem all that great to some people but it’s pretty darn amazing to me. As a kid I always wanted to be able to make something that other people would want. Back then, I wanted to draw and paint. In high school I wanted to become a famous photographer. In college I started thinking about owning a business. I’ve accomplished one of these things and am actively working on another.

Again though, my goals are being set by me and I am working on them how I see fit and how it works for me. In the end, it doesn’t matter what the world sees me as, if I feel success in what I have done then I’ve done well.

I see my future as a husband and a father, someone who encourages their kids to dream, who can support them and provide for them. My future is really not that far away and my dreams aren’t impossible. Everyday, we make choices, whether big or small, we need to make them count.

Be good to yourself. Pick yourself up and learn to love who you are. You are not going to be perfect so give yourself a break.

Surviving Anything means setting your own future.


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