Father’s Day

IMG_4979.JPGTwo and half hours later, Levi is finally asleep.

What I though would be an easy night turned into a battle of the wills as I tried to get Levi to sleep. He was tired and had a complete meltdown at the park, several times. So we came home and got ready for bed a little earlier then normal.

We brushed teeth, put lotion on, changing into pajamas, read our scriptures, said our prayer, and drank a bottle.

Unfortunately, he seemed more awake then usual, but I still put him in his crib and crept out. I was planning on getting some work done to prepare for the week and just as I was about to, I heard him fussing.

I tried the usual to get him down. Nothing was working so I decided to just let him be and instead we had a couple of cookies and watched Youtube. Sure enough though he was still tired and just needed to lay down.

So off to bed again, this time we laid in my bed and he tossed and turned, flipped and flopped, kicked and groaned, until I finally told him to lay down or I would put him in the crib.

It worked.

I stayed and made sure he was good and asleep before sneaking away again.

I can’t say I don’t get frustrated when he won’t go down. The evenings are vital for all the many projects I am currently working on and Sunday’s are important planning nights. But only having him part time has helped me appreciate these moments for what they are.

Levi has been sleeping in my arms from day one. I remember holding him almost the whole night after he was born. His first big poop was in my arms!

I understood how precious my time was with him and even though I was tired, I enjoyed getting up and feeding him at night. We’d sit on the couch and usually sleep out there for a few hours before I’d realize it and sneak him back to his crib.

I love being a dad and it’s those moments when your child really shows his trust in you that make all the other stuff worth it. Levi knows he is safe with me and at night when he can’t sleep, he reaches out for me and it’s funny to see him try to cuddle up next to me but just can’t seem to get close enough.

So yeah, maybe tonight I spent most of my “work” time battling it out with a tired toddler, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. I am so grateful to be able to have that opportunity and to also to be able to recognize how special it is.

Fatherhood isn’t easy, but it is damn well worth it.

QOTD: Joy

“We would never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world.”

– Helen Keller

A year ago my life fell apart. Six months later, what was left was crushed. In the last six months though, I have slowly pieced together a better life. When I married, it was expected of me to give up on many of my dreams. My hobbies were no longer acceptable and the things I loved were considered evil.

Finding myself again after experiencing all of that was scary. It seemed wrong to be enjoying things that actually made me happy. Over time though, I found what it meant to be happy again and now enjoy so much more of my life.

Diving back into photography has opened me back up to the world and all its beauty. Writing everyday has helped me be expressive about my feelings and honest with myself about how I am feeling. I have set goals for my future and I have created so many amazing things that I truly am surprised with it all.

I thought for a long time that I was happy married. I would tell myself that marriage wasn’t meant to be easy and that it wasn’t about me. But what I didn’t realize was how much of myself I was giving and giving up.

I am thankful though that now I know that my perspective was so terribly wrong and that I do indeed deserve to be happy and to have things that I love to do. I am allowed to love myself and to make decisions for me. This is why I keep doing this. Everyday, I push myself further to keep myself moving forward and looking for the joy in life no matter how hard it gets or how much I worry, because ultimately finding joy is so important.

QOTD: Creating Yourself

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

– George Bernard Shaw

I love the control this statement gives the individual. “Finding yourself” implies you don’t have the ability to do so with out some sort of journey or search in which you have little to no control of the outcome, length, or course.

“Creating yourself” gives control to you as an individual to dictate who you are entirely. You make the choices, you carry the power, and you decide.

 


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QOTD: Courage

May 24, 2017

“Courage is feeling fear, not getting rid of fear, and taking action in the face of fear.”

– Roy T. Bennett

First off, apologies this is going up late.

Now on to the thoughts on this. This afternoon I had to make a very important phone call to take care of something I had been putting off. It turned out way worse then I had thought and I had planned for some bad news.

Anyway, I had a choice to make, either I could use this as an excuse to veg out and worry and panic about what to do or I could double down on my work and really put my plans into play.

Thankfully, for the first time in my life, I immediately said, “welp, best thing to do is get to work and make my own luck.”

And that is what I did. Tonight I am staying up late and working hard. Getting my life to a better place and hopefully being able to fix my own mess. It’s scary and stressful but hopefully in 30 days I can come back and tell you that I did it. And if I can’t well hopefully I can tell you what I can do better.

Well good night everyone.


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QOTD: Set Your Future

May 18, 2017

” All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.”

– Brian Tracy

Dreaming is my thing. I dream all day everyday and sometimes at night too. I’ve always been lost in my head. This can make it hard to focus and actually set goals and turn my dreams into reality.

In 2015 my former spouse and I started an Etsy shop. We started selling signs and before I knew it, we had done what I had always thought was impossible, being a successful business owner. My standards of success however fall into these two categories: I’ve established a business that continues to produce sales and I have sold something multiple times and people still really like it.

I know that, that may not seem all that great to some people but it’s pretty darn amazing to me. As a kid I always wanted to be able to make something that other people would want. Back then, I wanted to draw and paint. In high school I wanted to become a famous photographer. In college I started thinking about owning a business. I’ve accomplished one of these things and am actively working on another.

Again though, my goals are being set by me and I am working on them how I see fit and how it works for me. In the end, it doesn’t matter what the world sees me as, if I feel success in what I have done then I’ve done well.

I see my future as a husband and a father, someone who encourages their kids to dream, who can support them and provide for them. My future is really not that far away and my dreams aren’t impossible. Everyday, we make choices, whether big or small, we need to make them count.

Be good to yourself. Pick yourself up and learn to love who you are. You are not going to be perfect so give yourself a break.

Surviving Anything means setting your own future.


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QOTD: Love Your self

May 17, 2017

“We don’t make mistakes, just happy accidents.”

– Bob Ross

What works best about this quote is how it forces you to change your perspective.

I don’t necessarily follow the idea of “Fake it till you make it” because there are a lot of things wrong with it but I do believe that attempting to find the good in every situation is a good thing.

I wil be honest and say that in some situations there may not be any good, but it’s the effort of trying to focus your energy some place that can make the real difference.

Take for example my mood tonight. The first day with my kid this week and I hate it. I put on some music to relax and I started with “I Hope You Suffer” by AFI.

Good song, great song, the best song ever…

But it was long before I was wanting to listen to something a bit lighter. Not because I want to avoid feeling angry or upset, but because I’ve accepted my emotion and naturally changed back into my true self who really just wants to dance. Ha ha.

It didn’t start this way and it doesn’t always work out like this. But getting to a point of honesty with my emotions has allowed me to work through things faster.

As someone who has struggled with depression, I want to also say sometimes you need help also. Counseling and therapy were a big part of me getting here. Techniques I learned there have helped to ease me through a lot. I’ve also done medication. I wasn’t able to find a combination for myself when I had it available but I can tell you it did help. And I know now that it is worth trying.

It is all about honesty and being willing to recognize what you need for you to be able to be okay. Reach out and reach up because you deserve to feel good about who you are.

Surviving anything is learning to love yourself.


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QOTD: Live for the stars, they are more plentiful.

May 16, 2017

log in the grass b&w

“Shoot for the moon, even if you fail, you’ll land among the stars.”

– Cecelia Ahern

In five months I went from single to married and it was quite an adventure. It was fun, exciting, overwhelming, and terrifying. Committing to marry someone so quickly was insane but it felt right and it was something I wanted.

That marriage is effectively over.

It is the reason I started work on this blog and reading this quote this morning reminded me how interesting it has been to see how much better of a person I am now that I am out of that marriage and how much it changed my life and brought me to a place where I can feel confident in following my dreams and feel excited for the future.

Trust me, a lot people in my situation wouldn’t be as outwardly happy as I am. The difference between what I could be doing and what I am doing is how I choose to just not worry about what I can’t control anymore. At first, that was hard. When you separate from anyone whom you have a relationship with, you do get mad when they seem to just move on. I know I did.

It didn’t take long, though, to realize how much I still had. Yeah, many of the people I had gotten close to seemed to push me out, but in doing so I found better friends. The people who actually helped me and showed me what it was like to actually care about people. Which was surprising to me because I thought my “church family” would have played a large role in my recovery, but that did not happen at all.

New opportunities presented themselves at work and in my own pursuit of happiness. I realized more fully who I was as a person, recognizing not only my weaknesses, but for once really seeing where I was strong and capable.

Life is still hard. My finances are a cluster ___. I have no idea how to be single and not seeing my son every day can get really frustrating.

But I have a decent home, food in cupboard, the opportunity to see my son often, great friends, my own car, a successful (in my mind) business, opportunities to explore and grow in my hobbies, drive to live, time to appreciate life, a great job, and a hope for my future.

There are plenty of things in my life that are great still. I overcame this hurdle and I will survive and continue to survive anything that comes my way. As a Mormon, I believe in an after-life, so why am I going to waste my time worrying about things that really don’t matter?

I still have some things to work on but I control that now. I control my life and I accept that, that means I can’t control everything.

Surviving anything means happiness is a choice.


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