POTD: Soft

I love getting really close to things.

When I am in love with someone, I like to hold them close. When I hug my son, I have to give him a good squeeze. When I photograph things, I am all about the small details.

I want like to see all the details in an image. Working with a Macro Lens has always been so fun. And I would love to get closer.

Bringing this image into black and white lost some the details on the subject but helped to mute the background. I was glad to have a strong highlight on one side but made sure not to lose too much in the shadow.

The image is very quiet and soft. I keep imagining myself running my hand along a soft white rug.

This image was taken in Zorinsky Lake park in Omaha, Nebraska. I was facing the lake itself and the dark line across the middle of the image is the tree line along the shore opposite of me. It was around 4 pm when I took the shot and the sky was clear so I had a lot of direct sunshine hitting my subject.

At this point I was in need of getting out the sun, and this was a last minute shot. I remember there was a lady walking towards me on the path and I sort of did a double take as I was walking past this. I saw it but was more concerned about finding water, that I had to convince myself to stop and capture it.

I am glad I did and am really satisfied with the grey tones that came out of the image.

It’s just very soft.

POTD: From Above

If there is one thing I have come to love about Omaha, Nebraska, it would have to be the amount of parks they have. Ed Zorinsky recreational park, was such a beautiful park to walk in and I only explored about a quarter or less of it. 

Along the way, there were a lot of little patches of flowers popping up here and there. Most were isolated in individual bunches, likes this one, spaced a few feet apart. 

Originally I had shot this bunch of flowers with my macro lens on and I’ll be sharing those images later this week. 

But as I was looking around, I really wanted to capture the intense contrast these little ones had with their surroundings. If I was a painter I would of spent most of my time painting what would be a massive green background with specks of color here and there. It was really beautiful to scan around and find just there bursts of color. 

With a few of the flowers I found, I took some lovely landscape type photographs but wasn’t really satisfied with the contrast. So as I was thinking about this photo, I slowly started to stand up and realized that looking down into the grass created the image I was looking for. 

It was just one of those happy moments of realization when you find the answer or solution to your problem right in front of your face. And so that is how this little gem was created. 

I discussed perspectives last week and this fits in with that. Sometimes we make more of mess and more trouble for ourselves by complicating the answers we are looking for, instead of letting the simplicity of life have free reign. 

I hope everyone has a great Monday night and we will see ya tomorrow. 

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QOTD: The Possible

“The individual who says it is not possible should move out of the way of those doing it.”

– Tricia Cunningham

The last challenge I was given was given by my former spouse. She didn’t now it was challenge when she said it but to me it was. I recall it being something like, “good luck, you don’t realize how much I do for you.”

And so that night I said to myself, never again would I let someone control my life again and more importantly stop me from feeling like I could be successful. 

The first thing I did was decide to keep my Etsy shop running. I was living in a hotel at the time and continued to do so for two weeks. During that time I was able to fulfill my orders and keep my shop alive while I tried to find a home. It was scary and honestly I thought it was crazy, but I knew that the last thing I was going to do was give up and let them be right.

I’ve survived so much in life and this will just be another bump to hop over. I’ve moved past using that statement as my motivation and now do what I do because I love it. It was always my dream to own a business and I have accomplished that.

It’s been about seven months since I lost my home and most of what I had, but now I have everything I could want and am able to survive. The biggest accomplishment was being able to be happy for my son and to always have what he needs. I will say that a lot of it has been because of my amazing family and especially my parents. My mom has helped me so much and she really is my main inspiration. Her and my dad have been amazing examples of what it means to keep pushing and to keep surviving.

Building my projects is the first step to building a future for my son and I and I hope to never lose sight of that.

Mistake VS Failure

“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”

– George Bernard Shaw

One could say life is just a series of mistakes with a sprinkle of success. It would be a pretty dark view on life, but fairly accurate. 

Life is a learning experience and will require us to make mistakes. Children are expected to make mistakes. We expect them to fall the first time they walk. We expect them to mispronounce and misspell words. For the first decade of our life making mistakes is an expectation. 

Then it slowly starts to shift and we begin learning that mistakes are inherently bad. Mistakes should be avoided and if we don’t fit within a certain set of “perfect” guidelines we aren’t good enough. As adults we constantly worry and obsess over everything we do looking for any little mistake we have made. 

I don’t want to say we should expect to fail because we really should focus on a mindset that believes we can succeed. I do believe we should expect to make a mistake along the way. As a small business owner, I spend a few hours everyday trying to figure out why one thing was successful and another wasn’t. Sometimes, as in most the time, I find where I have made a mistake or didn’t quite proofread something or uploaded something wrong. It’s what happens. It’s just me trying to get all these things done and be able to walk away with a few dollars in my pocket. 

If I spent everyday beating my self up because of that, I’d never gotten anywhere. It’s the same with almost anything else. At some point we have to be okay with our mistakes and use them to our advantage. Learning and growing cannot be achieved with out a merciful look at our own mistakes and success. 

With this blog I’m usually scrambling last minute to get something ready and rarely proofread, so my grammar and spelling can be terrible at times. Someday I will learn to balance time better to be able to improve this. But right now I am more concerned with writing as often as I can that I will live with those mistakes and rarely worry about them. 

That’s why mistakes aren’t failure. Learning the difference is essential to our happiness. 

“In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.”

– Leo Tolstoy

I wish I had the words to explain how powerful this quote is to me. But I don’t. So today this is what I give you. Have a successful Monday!

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QOTD: Courageous Decisions

May 2, 2017

“Whenever you see a successful business, someone once made a courageous decision.”

-Peter F Drucker

I mainly like this quote because it helps me feel courageous.

My view of my self doesn’t include courageous. It’s easy to say I am crazy or strange. When I think about trying to start all this with my business and this blog, I wonder if people view me as lazy and just trying to make money by doing something not worth while.

But what makes this not worthwhile?

It’s not the “societal norm” to want to start these type of businesses but people do it all the time. Quite literally this is what is supposed to happen. People have an idea and then go and do it.

So damn it I am going to go do it.

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Writing Prompt of the Day: Have you ever run away?

Short Answer: Kinda

I attempted to run away from home during my ninth grade year. It was a half-hearted attempt at best and there was absolutely no planning as to where to go or how to get there. Looking back, it really was more of my way of trying to get someone to notice that I needed some help.

This was around the time I started getting help for my depression and the effects it was having on my family relationships. The main motivation for me running away had to deal with my fear of my step-dad (just Dad for now on.) That fear wasn’t rooted in anything he had ever or has ever done to me or anyone in my family. Rather, it was because of a secret I was keeping.

I had been flirting with the idea of running away for awhile and had been carrying with me everything I held important to my life in my backpack: cds, dvds and my cd player. All the wonderful necessities of survival. The day before my attempt, I had been discussing with a friend my desire to leave, and he just casually said he would help. And that was about all the planning that went into that. No specifics of how he would help or what we would do. Just that he would help.

The next day, I secured my precious belongings again and some bus fare and left for school. My parents were still driving me to school because we didn’t live close to the school and as such they also picked me up after school. So, in order for this plan to work I had to sneak out of school at the end of the day, because you know, skipping school was bad. I could get in trouble for that.

During my lunch period, we discussed again our “plans” and it was agreed, that I would meet him at the back gate and we would take the bus he takes to his house. We went to school in Los Angeles, and so our high school campus was the size of a small college campus, leaving out the back gate was like traveling to a new world, we wouldn’t be caught. Also, we were taking public transportation to his house, which was in the same neighborhood my grandparents lived in. Since there was no plan beyond his house, I was essentially running away to my grandma’s house.

The time came, and my dad texted me to meet him down the street like usual, avoiding the main traffic was key to survival in LA. I quickly turned off my phone and made the trek across campus. It was easy enough at this point. We walked the couple miles to the bus stop with the other students. Got on the bus and then made to his house.

That was when I realized this was a stupid idea. It was clear I couldn’t stay with him and so I grabbed my things and walked to the park. There I sat until my cousin came by and asked what I was doing. I told him. He didn’t seemed concerned and mentioned that my dad was looking for me and I should go grandma’s.

That was enough to end my journey and I called home and told them I was headed to my grandma’s.

And that’s the story of when I ran away. I think I was gone for like two hours at most. Spent the next year grounded. But at least I can casually say I ran away and hope no one asks for the details.